I’m so nuts over this coconut juice!
I’m so nuts over this coconut juice!
I dream of living in a world where women love and accept each other with open arms. No judgement, no comparison. Where we are free to be vulnerable and to share the trials and successes of every day life without fear of judgement or criticism. I wish we could be real with one another, support each other – learn from each other. Being a woman is not a contest. It’s not a game. It’s a journey – it’s our lives. If there were less judgement and comparison there would be less feeling of failure, less feeling of depression. If everyone knew that all marriages struggle and one point or another, that no mother goes to sleep every night knowing she made all of the right choices. If we knew that all of us have imperfections and flaws, that we all feel lonely or sad at one point or another – that we all need a shoulder to cry on from time to time. I dream to live in a world where women don’t feel that they need to tuck, conceal, push up, plump or paint their faces and bodies before leaving the comfort of their own home. A world where natural is beautiful. A world of acceptance, encouragement. It would be amazing. This blog is a place where you will get my raw life. There will be no hiding, fabricating. Life is hard, and sometimes hearing it from someone else makes it feel okay for you too. The more we all speak out about what is real, the better chance we have for changing the world for our daughters and the women of the future. Self esteem troubles aren’t just about appearance. It’s very present in motherhood. We are all on different journeys with our parenting, and we are all in different places. No one is better than another, no one is right or wrong. Everyone is free to be where they are (as long as they are not hurting their children, of course) and should feel without judgement. I was once taught that when you judge someone, you immediately lose the ability to influence them. How can we learn from each other if we are always judging? I challenge you this:
Embrace Women. Trust them. Believe that they are in the right place at the right time. Know that just because something is right for you and your family, it’s not always right for them and theirs. Every Mother has the right to close her eyes and just listen to the voice within her. As long as she is doing what she believes is right, she is doing the best she can – and that’s the right thing. Ladies, stop comparing yourselves. You’re amazing. If you want to learn and grow, that makes you even more amazing. Know that others have something to offer you, and you have equally as much to offer them. We are all unique and beautiful. Let’s share our real selves with one another, and grow. Love. Support.
I believe that sharing your smile with strangers brightens their day. I guarantee you that genuine people notice your smile instead of whatever handbag you have draped from your body.
Women of the world: Unite!
So, you’ve all heard of Life Hacks, right?? Well, here are your Mom Hacks. Because being a Mom is hard enough!
Dinner for Breakfast?? Well, not exactly. Chances are, you prepare some sort of breakfast on a daily basis for your family. If you are anything like me, you cook and serve breakfast for a house full of people but don’t eat any of it! So, you can prepare dinner and breakfast at the same time, and finish it up while everyone else eats! You can use the same pans, and have all of your dinner dishes done before dinner time! Just prepare everything, put it in a dish in the fridge and don’t forget to stick it on the stove or in the oven to cook. Easy way to get an awesome jump start on your day.
Activity Bins Put together some small bins full of activities that you can pull out during times when you just need a few minutes to finish something up but your kids’ toys aren’t keeping them busy anymore. Don’t overuse these unless you have a huge selection so they don’t lose their clout!
Call your kid! Ever notice your kids don’t need your attention until you get on the phone? Well if they are ignoring you, give them a “phone” (which of course can be anything they can hold up to their ear and pretend with) and call them. I have tried this. It works.
Find the treasure! Need your kids to clean up their mess?? Hide 1 treasure per kid that you have beneath the chaotic mess and tell them to find the treasure! Cleaning becomes a game!
“Ladies and gentlemen of the class of ’99
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it
The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists
Whereas the rest of my advice has no basis or reliable
Than my own meandering experience, I will dispense this advice now…”
I remember the good ‘ol days, cruising around in my little covertable with my girlfriends singing “Everyone’s Free” by Baz Luhrmann. I loved that song. Most of his advice I like, but that thing about sunscreen – well, he and I need to talk about that.
So, I don’t put sunscreen or sunblock on myself or my kids, and no – I sure as heck don’t want them getting skin cancer. Let’s talk about skin cancer for a second. It’s caused by a lack of vitamin D. Coincidentally, sunblock BLOCKS the absorption of vitamin D. So… think about that one for a minute. I know what you’re thinking: sunburn. Well, we can talk about that too. So, a sunburn is a reaction to UV rays that causes inflammation of the skin. See, if you don’t have a vitamin D deficiency – most likely, you wont get a sunburn, even without sun protection. Your best defense against skin cancer and sunburn/sun damage and pre-mature aging is easy:
MAINTAIN OPTIMAL VITAMIN D LEVELS all year round.
Here are some great options to explore when trying to decide how to make sure you are getting enough D.
Fermented Cod Liver Oil
Liquid Vitamin D Drops
Cod Liver Oil
Going out into the sun without sun protection
So, there are some skin types that are just prone to sunburn even if you have sufficient vitamin D levels. (We will talk about D in another post, but the recommended doses from the FDA are laughable). In this case, it is super easy to make a DIY sunscreen to protect even the most delicate of skin. Here it goes. Brace yourself, it’s easy!
Pick an oil: Coconut or grapeseed.
Mix it with 1/4 zinc oxide powder 3/4 oil. Apply to skin.
Choosing safe sunscreen isn’t just about protecting yourself from skin cancer. Those sunscreen items are packed full of tons of other toxins that can just stay away!
I am a huge believer in Mommy’s intuition. I knew something was wrong with my baby, even though everyone around me was telling me that nothing was. I am so glad that I didn’t listen.
After 6 weeks of my newborn son never looking at me, not responding to movement and stimuli around him, not showing clear response to light/dark (he didn’t even squint or blink from camera flash!) and not looking at my face – I couldn’t take it anymore. I took him to his Pediatrician who did some basic testing and determined that he may or may not have a problem, but I was encouraged to wait it out. I couldn’t. I was on the phone that same day, finding someone who would see him. Finding an ophthalmologist that will see a 8 week old infant that is not being referred from his PCP is not an easy task, but I found one. A few days later, we had our appointment. She didn’t give me any definitive information but agreed that something didn’t see right. She referred us as a stat referral to the Kellogg Eye Center to see a team of specialty pediatric ophthalmologists. He was examined by three Doctors at that visit.
My Husband, 18 month old Daughter, 9 week old Son and myself sat in this office – waiting for them to come back. I can remember what each of us was wearing, I can remember every detail about this moment. The moment that the Doctor came back into the room and said we needed to be seen by a Pediatric Neuro-Ophthalmologist to seek treatment for our blind Son. Our blind Son. We were told that he had Optic Nerve Hypoplasia, which is a condition that has no known treatment or surgery to cure it. It never gets better, it actually gets worse. Every ounce of my being was heartbroken, thinking about my sweet baby boy and how he would never see me, his sister, his family. He would never see his future family or children, never have a favorite color, probably never ride a bike – the list went on and on. I was devastated for him. Completely shattered. Can you imagine holding your baby and having all of these new realities flood your mind? It’s awful.
My Husband was staying strong for us. He reminded me that no matter what, we would give our Son an amazing life and always love him. Always. That wasn’t enough for me, I couldn’t accept this – but I was so thankful and humbled by my Husbands love that surrounded us at that terrible appointment and the emotional ride home. The Neuro-Opthamologist could not see us for 4 weeks. Four weeks. I was supposed to wait for 4 weeks to learn what the prognosis was for my sweet child? There is no way I could do it. I spent the rest of the night on the phone with offices trying to get him seen sooner. Shortly before 5pm, I got an appointment for the next day. I was hopeful that the Doctor would tell us that the diagnosis was wrong, or that we could do something. He just gave us more bad news, and told us that our son would never see. Never see. They said that though some children with ONH do have some vision, that our Sons optic nerves were completely gray – meaning that there was no chance of vision. Normal optic nerves are pink. They did not develop during my pregnancy.
I refused to accept it. I wouldn’t listen. I gave up on the traditional doctors and started seeking alternative therapies. My best friend, and co-admin of this page, Rachelle, got me in that same day to see a Natural Practitioner that she works for that did a cranial sacral massage on my Son that same day. He told me that he felt some overlapping of plates in his skull and referred me to a massage therapist to get additional massages. The next therapist determined that he had a kinked nerve in the upper hemisphere of his skull that was most likely restricting bloodflow to his optic nerves- preventing them from developing. Three massages later, and I am 100% serious – my son looked at me. He made eye contact with me while I was nursing him – during which he would typically just be staring off into space. He was 10 weeks old. Every day there after, his vision kept improving. He began tracking objects, his pupils dilated in response to light – I knew he could see me. It was magical. We kept going with these massages that we couldn’t even afford but couldn’t afford not to. In addition to this, I began taking vitamins and nutritional supplements that are said to promote visual stimulation and healing. Because I was taking them, my son would reap the benefits through my breastmilk.
I am so happy to report that my Son is now 2 years, 4 months old and has incredible vision. He can see items up close and far away with a very slight lazy eye that will be correctable via patching therapy. He may have a subtle color blindness but he is doing everything that I thought he may never be able to do. It’s incredible. I am crying as I write this, remembering all of these emotional days and celebrating the journey that restored his sight. He has since followed up with his ophthalmology team who celebrate right along with us that he can see. His optic nerves are now the perfect shade of pink!
I have reached out to people who have found this treatment to be helpful for them, too. Spread the word, please. Be inspired. Know that you don’t have to accept anything that you are told that your gut is telling you otherwise. I encourage everyone to search high and low until they find an answer that they are at peace with, and I thank and love each and every person who helped my Son along this journey so very much. There is a permanent place in my heart for them, always.
To all the Mothers who listen to their gut – to everyone in the world who reaches out to support, listen, and help – and to each and every one of you – cheers!
If you have not read my post about my Son who was diagnosed legally blind in infancy, you may want to begin: Here
From speaking out, I have found a few people to share my story with. This email that I received a few months ago was life changing and has been the inspiration for me to keep going – and keep reaching out. Read on to see how this woman helped her blind grandson to SEE AGAIN.
Ditch the toxins. Go green! Try this super easy-squeezy-lemon-peasy recipe and never look back!
Every morning before I get into the shower, I fill a glass bottle 3/4 full of hot water, add a glob of coconut oil and a few drops of essential oils and shake it all up.
Once I “wash” my hair – I dump my mixture (all melted, of course) on my hair, work it in, and rinse with very warm water.
My hair is incredibly soft, healthier than ever before – and always looks and smells CLEAN! I will never go back.
So, “washing” my hair. I just use a tiny drop of Dr Bronners Castile Soap on my roots, let it bubble up and rinse. That’s all! 🙂
Easy. No more dropping serious coin on rescue remedies for your locks. You’re welcome.
(Do anticipate a 2 week detox period before your hair goes from awful to awesome)
Laundry Soap is so easy and affordable to make. It’s time to rid your clothing and bedding of toxins for good! You spend all of your day wrapped up in clothing washed with harsh soaps full of chemicals and artificial fragrances – then cuddle up to them in your bed at night! Packed full of skin and respiratory irritants, this stuff is mostly no good.
Here’s what you need, each ringing up for $5 or less:
1 55oz box of Arm and Hammer Super Washing Soda
1 76oz box of Borax
10 bars of Dr Bronners Soap
Whip out a cheese grater and grate your soap. Im not kidding. It’s totally tedious but you’re going to end up with a years supply of laundry soap for about a penny a load. It’s worth it. Once you have your giant pile of soap shreds, mix everything together and put it in containers. Use about 1tsp for a small load, 1.5 for medium and 2 for a soiled load.
Store your goods in a sealed container, away from little ones!
What is a detox? A detox is a regimen that you do for a set amount of days, that consists of some type of supplements, a supplemental shake and a clean eating plan. These things work synergistically to help rid your body of all toxins while giving it proper nutrition too. A good cleanse will give you a complete plan to follow, whether you want to do a quick cleanse (7 days ) or an extensive cleanse for up to 3 months. You choose what works best for you.
Our health is one of the most important things! Without our health, our quality of life can be very poor. It’s very sad that we are not generally encouraged to take control of our own health, and take the time to understand what optimal health is and how to get there. Most of the time we take our health for granted until something develops and then we tend too switch from being proactive to reactive, but by doing so we don’t always make the best decisions. Thankfully, even after we develop health issues our bodies have the amazing ability to heal itself as long as we give it the proper nutrients to do so. A crucial step in maintaining our bodies is detoxing. A safe detox should be done a few times every year! This helps rid our body of toxins that would usually just continue to accumulate and eventually cause a plethora of health issues, some minor and some major. A proper detoxification program will help remove all toxins (environmental, emotional, etc). By doing this preventively, you will help reduce the chance of developing health issues in the future. If you already have health issues this will help your body to be able to function better and reverse them, without taking harmful pharmaceuticals.
Recommendations for safe detoxing should always come from a qualified practitioner that is familiar with your current health and health history. We never recommend blindly beginning any detoxification program. We strongly urge you to do research on the Core Restore program, and follow us on a step-by-step journey if you decide that it is a good fit for you.